28 November 2016 // Public Intel
Would I do it again?
Like most veterans, I’ve been asked this simple question time after time. However, as the answer changes with each asking of the question, I’ve found the question not to be as simple as I initially thought. Lately I’ve been thinking about this question and the people who have asked, and I think I’ve stumbled across a problem, which is that this isn’t a single question, but two.
Let me explain. When the question is asked, would I do it again, I think there is a spark of interest in my experiences. However, I’ve come to realize that the asker of the question is more interested in how my experience impacts them. Typically when I’m asked this question I’m in a social gathering filled with people I don’t know, so I smile, nod my head and say something to the affirmative so that this stranger who I’ve just meet, and most likely will never talk to ever again, will feel like their tax money was well spent.
Cynical, I know, but this stranger does not what to hear of the times that were spent waiting due to some paperwork foul-up, or the fields of broken equipment due to lack of spare parts or trained technicians. They want to hear about the helicopter rides across the North Carolina coastlines or the exotic places I’ve been that help teach Americans geography.
Less often I’ve been asked by someone interested in joining the military, would I do it again, and that is a tougher answer to give. Often it is a teenager, or someone in their twenties looking for an alternative to their civilian life. What do you tell a young person, who has their entire life head of them, should they join the military? The military isn’t for everybody; one of the great tragedies of modern society has been how the military has been forgotten as a valid career path, even as the military has been forced to adapt to modern society. So I tell them a story. I give the good times, and the bad. All the fun stuff, and the not so fun. I recall the things I wish I could do again, and talk about the things I wish I could do over.
There are many veterans, and even some non-veterans, who believe that everyone should spend some time in the military, like it is some cure-all for turning misfits into adults. However, just being in the military doesn’t make you a better person, a sociopath isn’t going to be fixed by the military, and to be honest the vast majority of people are just not suited for the military for a multitude of reasons.I’m not someone who believes that the military is right for everyone, and there are people who regret their military service. Some keep silent about their regret and you would never know they were ever in the military, or while others are passionately anti-military.
Before I started my graduate program at Indiana University, I told myself that I was going to go back into the military to serve again. So when I asked myself, would I do it again, the question changed to, can I do it again? I’m not as young as I once was, this year the body hurts a little more than it did last year. Should I do it again?
When I told my wife of eighteen years my plans to go back into the Marines she just hugged me and didn’t bother to ask anymore.
Not so simple a question.
-Public Intel